Leadership is hard. It’s not easy to be a leader. People can sometimes expect so many things from you. When you fail, you are judged. When you succeed, not everyone will celebrate with you. But as a leader, when you are able to develop others to be the leader that God has called them to be, there is that great fulfillment that outweighs the downside of leadership.
I am just started to read John Maxwell’s book, developing the leader within you and I have learned so many things already. According to John Maxwell, there are five stages in leadership – position, permission, production, people development, and personhood. I started to think what stage I am in. I wanted to convince myself that I am already in the 4th level (people development), but as I assess the characteristics per level, I realized that I have so much to learn. I might still be in the permission stage.
The permission stage is the stage where from being given a title or position you don’t lead through authority but authenticity. In short, you lead by building a relationship with your people. I must admit I need to develop that. I am the type of leader that wants action and results. I want to immediately develop leaders. The downside of this personality is the lack of relationship with your leaders – all work.
I prayed and asked God to show me where in his word tells us to love first rather than focusing on the tasks and results. By God’s grace, I remembered 1 Corinthians 13.
If I could speak all the languages of earth and of angels, but didn’t love others, I would only be a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. If I had the gift of prophecy, and if I understood all of God’s secret plans and possessed all knowledge, and if I had such faith that I could move mountains, but didn’t love others, I would be nothing. If I gave everything I have to the poor and even sacrificed my body, I could boast about it; but if I didn’t love others, I would have gained nothing.
Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance
It’s amazing how God speaks through his word. How I pray that I’ll be able to really apply this passage in my life. How I really pray that I’ll be an authentic and loving leader first to everyone. How I pray that I’ll learn to love through:
- Being patient with the growth curve of people that I lead (Love is patient)
- Rejoicing in the success of our cluster teams (Love is not jealous)
- Not being demanding and forcing what I want (Love does not demand)
- Forgiving others (Love does not keep a wrong record)
- Always believing the best in people (Love is always hopeful)
It’s not easy to be a leader, but through God’s love and grace, you can lead well.
People don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care. Leadership begins with the heart, not the head. – John Maxwell